I don't like NASCAR, and I have a hunch that I'm not going to find my special girl at the speedway (I can just imagine the fights because I won't let her put a number 3 on our car window). Yeah, so, it calls into question the good doctor's wisdom sending poor guys out into maelstroms in the hopes that the lady they rescue happens to be looking for a hubby.
In truth- I agree with the approach of moving slower and really getting to know each other. the author of this book recommends positive endings to relationships that are not working and I agree whole heartedly.
What I find from many of these books- which leaves me at a loss- is where is the wisdom and advice for those of us whose relationships go amuck as a result of situational changes in life. I have always been on excellent terms with those I love long after the intimate relationship has ended.
Putting in the context of the five stages of dating made a lot of sense and there are a lot of pimply emo kids that would save themselves the role of the gay heterosexual friend if they read it.
I didn't agree with the whole concept of going out to do things that you typically wouldn't enjoy so that maybe you'd bump into your soulmate.
Gray does an excellent job at explaining the wonderful (but sometimes baffling) differences between the genders.
It helps each to better understand how the other interprets those little things that can make or break dating in its fragile early stages, which is particularly helpful for a generation who just doesn't date anymore.
" Just days ago your favorite Martian was holding you in his arms telling you how special you are and how much he loves you; now three days have gone by and he hasn\'t even called!
You may share the same bed, yet you feel like he doesn\'t even know you are there!
Then he goes on to say you can tell them you REALLY enjoyed the date by saying "I had a very, very nice time." And then provides example sentences with "very, very" and "so, so" in them. Another excellent part of the book, though, was he provides an explanation of the whole "nice guys finish last" issue.
As a guy who used to complain about this, the whole "girls only date the jerks" deal, this was nice to see explained, especially since it put me in my place to let me know it was basically my fault and to stop whining about it.
Whether you are recently separated, divorced, or you have been in the singles scene for longer than you want, this insightful guide will help you navigate the dating maze and find that special person you've been waiting for.